19 Jan 2007

Counselling Homework, Activity Two

Hello, Its time to get back to the studies! although completing a journal (blog) is part of my on-going homework.

As this is a 32 week course condensed into 20 weeks i have a lot of homework to do, the onus is on you to keep up! (meaning me not you!)

This current section is all about Self/Personal development so it is quite hard going because you have to look at yourself in mirror (an all seeing mirror, down to the soul kind) and decide if you like what you see? if not what can you do to change that opinion.

In the counselling book i was recommended to buy ( First Steps in Counselling by Pete Sanders), it has several great quotations,extracts and poems, so here is two that i really enjoyed:

'All they had in them was themselves but they would keep going until they found what was in them to find' Russell Hoban: Turtle Diary, p. 170.

' Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, "Who am i to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?" Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn't serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We were all meant to shine, as children do' Return to Love: Reflections on a Course in Miracles by Marianne Williamson

Activity Two

Have a read of activity one if you haven't already. If at all possible try to do this with a partner (if not there is always me).

  1. Discuss the value of self development for counsellors (or you).
  2. Consider openly your own values, beliefs and behaviours about self development.
  3. Accept feedback from partner- how did you feel? (this could be any situation in which you have received feedback)
  4. Evaluate yourself in relation to your partner or others in your group. How did their values, beliefs and behaviour compare with yours?
  5. What is the potential impact of the counsellors self-development on the counselling relationship and the client. ( or how would self development impact on a relationship with a significant other?)

I know this is difficult to do on your own, but have a go.


  1. Claire, I certainly like the 2nd quote. good luck with your studies.

  2. Real world assignments...thanks...will attempt.

    Loved second quote! Very appropriate in my life.

    You will be a very good therapist.

  3. Self-assessment, huh? The hard part there is to be honest with one's self without being brutal too! I think -having gone through the college coursework involved in a counseling degree - afterward, we then all tend to get into the self-assessment stuff and stay there because you know how important it is. Unfortunately, I've never had much opportunity to use my counseling education in a work environment though which maybe explains why I'm always on a self-assessment detail!

  4. It's Friday one does homework on Friday nights!!!!

  5. I hate homework, take a hike.......

  6. Cheers sgt i know you must be far to busy to self develop at the moment! but when you get back you should have a go!

    I cant wait to see your attempt egc, and i really hope that i can become a good therapist.

    Self assessment is so hard Jeni, i wonder if you can ever get over all your own liitle faults and get to be a good counsellor!

    No worries Ruth no homework now!

    I am hiking on sunday Sarge!

  7. Claire, I lined the second quote as well, and personally, I enjoy being brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous. ;-)

    Seriously, I view myself as a work eternally in progress. I think a some of the most difficult lessons about self-development I have learned are:

    It's not realistic to expect life to be fair. It isn't, so being bitter about it when it isn't does no good and harms me.

    I alone am responsible for everything I think, feel, and do about everything.

    Divide life's BS into three piles. Act on the pile I can change now. Defer the pile I can't change until later. The pile I can never change is God's pile.

  8. Wow great answer again tomcat! i think you are much further up the tree of enlightenment than me, but you do have a few years on me!
    I am going to keep that piles metaphor for class on tuesday.

  9. Glad you liked it Claire. Yep, I'm much older and have the uglies to proove it.

  10. Hey you earned them uglies!!!lol! please keep contributing o wise one!

  11. Claire, would that I had 1/10 the wisdom you have now, when I was your age. I could have spared myself and others considerable grief.

  12. Aww how nice of you to say!!! Not sure its quite true.